Sunday, February 25, 2007

Should I date or get a root canal?

Right now both look about the same as far as funness go. And, lucky me, I need to do both. A filling just fell out of a tooth due to some "exceptional" past dental work and now its killing cause crap keeps gettin in the hole. How dumb is that. I won't tell you the dentist's name, but if you ever had a filling fall out, ya, that guy did it. But like the good ol dentist says...that's not pain you're feeling, it's pressure. My A.

As far as the dating situation goes, its a little bit of pressure and pain. I started dating this girl in Vegas a couple of months ago and we've had alot of fun. Thing is, she lives and works in Vegas and I'm up here in Happy Valley. Long distance is super fun. Just like root canals. BUT (and that's a big butt ()() ) (<-- K, thats funny), this girl is a ton of fun, down to earth, and is a good girl. Herein lies the problem...she's dating me.

For some reason I just didn't get so attached to her as she did to me. I love spending time with her cause its far and inbetween that we get to hang out due to the distance factor, but for some reason I just haven't "come around" like she has... and I feel like crap. Cause now all the "what are we" questions start to get asked, which is fair for her to ask. Only now I need to be honest and tell her that as much as I have a blast with her, for some reason I'm just not as into the actual relationship as she is. What am I supposed to say..."Its not you it's me?" Ok thats absolutely true, but its absolutely lame to say. Dang it I suck.

So I finally had a good talk with her and she understood that I'm not looking for anything serious right now, but it still kills me inside to see her hurt and confused. Like she doesn't feel like she's good enough or some junk like that, which is not true. I just feel I should be totally into it if I'm gunna get serious, otherwise I'd just be leading this great girl on. I hate doing this stuff. Again, I suck.

Maybe I should just be a dentist. I could crappingly apply fillings to cover some pain I've caused, just like trying to cover the girl's hurt I caused by trying to explain why I'm confusing even myself. My explaining my feelings is just like a crappy filling. See, that was a crappy attempt at an analogy for an explanation...case in point. But, we've all been on both sides. We've all been shot down, and we've all had to explain why things weren't working. I just hate it. The freakin' "DTR's". Having a DTR is like throwing up...you hate to do it, you try not to...but once you spill your guts you feel alot better and maybe you can go eat some more.

In any case, my tooth hurts. My heart hurts cause this great friend I have isn't too thrilled with my "slow-movin" A right now. Maybe I should just be patient and take it slow with her and me. Any ideas? I mean, somehow you tards got married so I'd appreciate any insights. Til then, I'll keep flickin bits of steak and chips out of my gaping tooth hole with my toungue.

44 comments:

Eliza said...

I am doing the same thing right now (not the dating part HAH!) I have filling missing but it doesn't hurt but it is the second time it has fallen out!!!! I do have another one that fell out the same time (hmmm wonder if we have the same dentist) and it is soooo dang cold sensitive. I can't go til curtis has this stupid High school done cause No time and I seriously want to get put down this time!! Ask Ashley for the dating advice...she knows how to break it off pshhht. WHATEVAAAHH (to be sung in an opera voice with your hand held out).

Tara Maxfield said...

Sorry about the tooth! Now, we both know I am not the best one to be giving relationship advice. If I remember correctly, I think we were giving me dating pointers when you were a freshman in college and I was quite a bit older.

However, the one thing that I learned from all my failed relationships in the past was that love is not meant to be difficult or confusing. You will know when you are ready to take things to the next level because it will come naturally for both of you without all the drama and heartache. My advice is try not to think about relationship things too much. Just date good girls that you enjoy being with and that make you a better person. Before you know it, you will be buying that ring that empties out your bank account.

Alli Fantastico said...

Liza's the best opera singer evaaaaahhh (to be sung in a deep monotone voice with bug eyes)

Also, I'm thinking we have the same dentist because all my teeth have fallen out too and I've had to resort to only eating slurpees for the rest of my life.

-KJ said...

#1 I love that other people left longer blogs than me.
#2 We all HAD the same crappy dentist
#3 Take care of it NOW cause when my filling fell out my tooth broke 3 days later
#4 Just remember that Kev waited for the missionary and then told her he had someone else (who was freakin AWESOME) when she got home
#5 Eliza, do you want to be put OUT or DOWN (like a horse)!

-KJ said...

Oh yea, if Ashley gets a blog I will be all over that stupid trash!
Leave is psycho arce, NOW (to be sung in an ascending scale)!

-KJ said...

Ohhh crap! I didn't know that Sister T had a blog site! I promise I am not a jerk. You still need to date while she is gone! Sorry Tiana if you are reading this!

Eliza said...

When it comes to the dentist It might be nice to just be put down. What am I saying...just put out. My back tooth (cold sensitive one) was the worst last time. Nothing took away the pain and he told me to just give him 2 more min. Whatevah! I don't trust the dentist.

Taylor Oblad said...

Ryan keep this in mind...Went to a party the other night
All the ladies were treating me right
Moving my feet to the disco beat
How in the world could I keep my seat

All of a sudden I began to change
I was on the dance floor acting strange
Flapping my arms I began to cluck
Look at me..
I'm the disco duck

R. A. L. III. said...

Hey buddy! I see we both have some spare time on our hands fore this blogging thing!! lol Sorry i missed seeing all of you guys last weekend!

-KJ said...
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Cortney said...

Well first I hate steak I prefer chicken. And second if it makes you feel better to think I was checking out your butt then I'll let you keep thinking. Besides it sounds like you need a self-esteem boost after all this dating drama. Good Luck!

Mel said...

Hey Ryan, I have been hesitant to comment on your blog for fear of the relentless teasing about "sleeping with my eyes open" that I haven't heard in years! I do want to say that you are too dang cute! And if things don't work out with your lady friend...I have a little sister who is pretty cute. And she's at SUU which is a shorter drive. Just a thought!

Mandy said...

ask taylor about the drive from provo to SUU. he did it every week for 4 months

Taylor Oblad said...

Yeah and look what it got me.

Taylor Oblad said...

A smokin' hawt Wife

Lyd said...

That steak and trash is nasty! It reminds me of the good ol days when I had two giant holes from my wisdom teeth, now that was sick! Well, I don't have any advice on dating, seeing that I have only gone on like 2.5 dates in my whole life! Keep goin' strong!

Taylor Oblad said...

Hey, do I know Layne? Was she that girl who lived in Liberty Square your "freshman" year? Do you remember all the holes I put in the cieling of our apartment because of the Gay Cali boys? Or the pounds of coconut and almonds I poured in front of their door, the ancient cookie dough ball I stuck to their door, the snappers we threw at their door during the wee hours of the morning, or the time I peed on their door. I had a really short fuse back then; it didn't help you and Brock egging me on, or Chad buying useless junk at the store to supply me with ammo for our early morning bombardments. Also I remember the look on Chad's face when I refused to chip in when he bought 3 lbs. of coconut, 4 lbs. of almonds, a bag of red hots, and 12 cans of refried beans. What in the crack pipe was I going to do with that. Do I look like the Iron Chef. All good times!!!

Mandy said...

how many times are you going to say door in one comment? j/k

-KJ said...

Was that one of Chad's money making schemes? Buy lots of bulk foods + over charge room mates = brilliant business plan! Bless his heart.

Taylor Oblad said...

Three of my favorites were when he decided to seel AmWay, he sold keychains, and when he thought he could buy a car sell it for more. Use that monety to buy a new car, and sell that one for more than he bought it for (etc.) Until he could buy a new Lexus or Beamer. Uhhhhh nice try buddy. I think Beniford Harber collaborated on that last one. Bless his dumb dumb heart.

Taylor Oblad said...

DTR = Don't Talk Retard

-KJ said...

Wow, he was really reachin' there! The car was my favorite of all time. Kev and I still laugh at that one!

Ryan Nelson said...

I should totally be in class right now, we took a five minute break and I came up to the computer lab. This blog stuff will make me more money in life anyway. Who needs to know how to be a productive project manager anyway.

Taylor Oblad said...

The one thing I can take away living with Chad is the following. After living with Chad I was ready to get married for two reasons: (1)I did not want to live with him any more; (2) If I could live one year with that young man, and not injury either myself or him physically (because we all know I hurt him verbally and emotionally) then I could live with any woman in the world. Thanks Chad. I am sure you feel the same way about me. Did he ever do his dishes? I think he was to busy following the "How to become more hygentically saavy" list that his girlfriend made him.

Taylor Oblad said...

To add to my last comment, Mandy is a delight. I didn't need Chad after all, but it was fun while it lasted. Go Jefferson 11...(start crying, whipe a tear, pretend to whipe an eye and your nose, then exit stage left)

-KJ said...

Very dramatic Tay. Is that the girlfriend he later dumped and then the next day asked you guys, in front of her of course, why a girl so beautiful was single? And then you proceeded to call him, a very appropriate, A_ _ hole! Ha ha! Sometimes that boy doesn't think!

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-KJ said...

Who is that guy? Are we sure he isn't a chick? I am fake wiping a tear away from my eye right now. Puke! Look what long distance did for me. Hot spouse, and two gorgeous kids.

Ryan Nelson said...

Ray is a buddy from Vegas...don't be fooled by his little sentimental posts, that kid will get you laughin so hard you might just have to wear some "Oops I crapped my pants". Let'em have it Ray

-KJ said...

OK, I'll be nice. Funny he deleted his comment now. Must have made him feel bad. Sorry Ray! Just teasin'.

R. A. L. III. said...

It's ok i just recently got my heart stomped on after a year so i may of sounded a little sappy.

Taylor Oblad said...

That is just the way Kissy is. One time we were walking home from the 7th grade and she told my friend (her future high school boyfriend) that he wasn't cool enough to walk with her and told him stay behind. That was Awesome.

-KJ said...

I think I told them to put paper bags over their heads too. If I recall Tay, you were laughing right along with me. I am pretty harsh, but it is all in good fun. Right?

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R. A. L. III. said...

So KJ your Ryans sister? How are you related to the Baileys?? I grew up with Ben, Katie & Mark along with the rest of that family, is that the same family??? I dont remember a Kevin?

Taylor Oblad said...

AHHHHHHH. That is awesome!!!!!!!! KJ married into the Bailey's. That is the funniest thang I have ever heard. I lived down the street from the bailey's almost my whole life and I was best frinds with Jono. I must have met you at some point. I was good friends with James and Ben as well, but I was closer to Jono's age.

R. A. L. III. said...

i knew a Jeff Oblad????

Taylor Oblad said...

He is my cousin.

-KJ said...

Yes, please do NOT think I married one of THOSE Bailey's! However, a new family just moved exactly across the street from me a few weeks ago, and he was mission comps with Jono! Weird! How the heck did you know Jeff? They grew up in my ward.

R. A. L. III. said...

Hey you really say it how you see it dont you. They aren't that bad are they???? Jeff and I played football together in highschool. It was way before i became a member. If i had only known then what i knew now!!!

-KJ said...

No, the Bailey's are hilarious. Just not marriage material, for me. I hung out with James and Jono a ton.

R. A. L. III. said...

Ok i got'cha. I grew up living not a block away so i knew what you meant! lol SO have you found out a way to get into Chads beach house with out sharing it with 4 other guys??

-KJ said...

Well, if you can't offer him 1,000 bucks and have him know that means exclusively you and YOUR guests, than no, I don't think that will ever happen.